Have you ever watched RuPaul’s drag race? I love it because each challenge is unique in its parameters, but each time the people who do the best are those who fully embrace the challenge AND themselves. It is really inspiring to watch someone really show up as who they are in different situations. I love applying this quote to everyday life, too.
For some of my clients work clothes or dress clothes or casual clothes just don’t speak to them. They don’t feel like themselves. They are just wearing whatever they can find to put on their bodies and feeling totally blah. That feeling comes partly from not having the right clothes, but a huge part of it is perspective, because sometimes there is a little part of ourselves that just wants to rebel against the parameters.
NO! I DON’T WANT TO WEAR A SUIT AND TIE. FINE I WILL JUST WEAR THIS LAME ONE IN REBELLION- TAKE THAT, RIDICULOUS DRESS CODE.
DAMN YOU, RULES AGAINST MY SHOULDERS BEING EXPOSED. I WILL WEAR THESE LAME CARDIGANS IN PROTEST.
The rules may be lame, but they are just drag. When you show up in something you hate and feel uncomfortable in, people know it. It seeps into your interactions, setting you up to lose the race. Also, the second that job is done, those cardigans are probably going to end up donated or in a land fill, because they don’t bring you joy.
I will not argue with you, some work dress codes can be lame, but that doesn’t mean that YOU have to be. You are FABULOUS. Show up as you in the proper drag, and people will notice.
You deserve a seat at the table.
You deserve to be recognized.
You deserve better then “meh”.
Now get to werk.